Late Night Thoughts of A Mother Whose Child Has Cancer (5)

photo of ethan with hair 3 months post-chemo

Ethan 3 months post-chemo


Herewith this week’s article as penned by Ethan’s Mom, Gila Jacobs, on her feelings as an Onco Mom in dealing with the daily trials and tribulations of cancer. As originally explained, this article is posted as is to maintain integrity and passion.


8 July 2014

Right now… I’m standing at a crossroads of asking WHY?

Why is it that right now, in this moment, I feel so different, so changed? As if I just don’t care what people think of me as a Mom who has gone through such a hardship as cancer with her child?

Why is it that I feel so free as a person; someone who is able to point out exactly what needs fixing, free enough to face the truth?

Why is it that I see so clearly what I want out of life?

Why is it that I have the balls (so to speak) to face every fear and every challenge with my eyes open?

Why am I not afraid to change me, down to the very core of my soul in order to live a happier tomorrow?

Why is it that I could care less whether anyone wants to join me going forward or not?

Why? Because my son is 3 months in remission and I have grown with him and most of all changed with him during his cancer journey. I have taken every curveball, every harsh blow, every challenge and overcome.

I am not afraid to challenge or be challenged. I am not afraid to ask those questions. To fight for a healthy and happy tomorrow which my son deserves. I want to look at myself in the mirror and know that I have done everything in my human power to give him a life of love, light and laughter.

I am sometimes alone in my motivation. Sometimes my wishes are not understood… my fight for a better, happier tomorrow is met with more resistance than expected. Why does it seem that what I want to offer my son (who has been through so much) seems crazy? Is change really that scary?

Well I’m not afraid. I’m not afraid to say that today I will become a better person. I will care more for someone else than myself, I will have patience when the pots are being thrown around. I will leave the housework to first spend some time tickling. Or play hide and seek. I will be fully aware that the way I live today, is the way he will live with his children one day. I will take on that responsibility of teaching him how to live every second as if it’s your last.

I will show him love and affection that will last forever, even when I am no longer here. I will leave him a legacy like no other. I will be strong for him, lead him, teach him, hold him, tuck him in, sing with him, dance with him, give him more than enough happy memories to drown out all the cancer ones.

I accept this huge responsibility with all that I have within me. I pray for God’s help so that I do not fail this challenge, and I trust in God’s plan for our lives.


My name is Gila Jacobs, my son Ethan is recovering from cancer. My husband and I are recovering from shock, stress, financial burdens due to medical bills and plain and simple exhaustion. This is our story.

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No language can express the power, and beauty, and heroism, and majesty of a mother’s love. It shrinks not where man cowers, and grows stronger where man faints, and over wastes of worldly fortunes sends the radiance of its quenchless fidelity like a star.

~Edwin Hubbell Chapin ~




About LFCT

This is a blog about CHILDHOOD CANCER and CHILDHOOD CANCER AWARENESS Little Fighters Cancer Trust is a non-profit organisation that offers support and aid to Children with Cancer and their families. When a child is diagnosed with cancer it affects the whole family. One of the parents, usually the mother, must give up their job to care for the child and this creates financial problems for the family. In South Africa especially the majority of these families are not well-to-do; many of them are rural. A diagnosis of cancer can wipe out any family’s finances, let alone a poor family. The costs of special medications, special diets, hospital stays, transport to and from the hospital or clinic and accommodation and food costs for the mother who spends most of the time at her child’s bedside are astronomical. These are the people and problems that fall through the cracks, and these are the people that Little Fighters Cancer Trust has pledged to help in any way possible. LFCT takes a holistic approach to assisting the Children with Cancer and their Families, with the main aim to be the preservation of individual dignity and pride. Little Fighters Cancer Trust also focuses on promotion and advocacy of National Childhood Cancer Awareness in an effort to increase awareness of Early Warning Signs of Childhood Cancer. This would result in earlier diagnosis, giving the Child with Cancer more of a chance at Treatment and Survival. See "About" for more Background info

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